What To Say When He's Angry And Blaming You

Can't see the images? View online Unsubscribe Ask For What You Need AND Bring Him Closer With This Simple Exercise Tom, Are you feeling yourself being "extra sensitive" with men in general - or a particular man you're involved with? And yet - with other men - you feel relaxed, easy-going, confident and happy in your own self? You're a woman. You're SUPPOSED to be "sensitive!" You're supposed to feel things deeply and take things "to heart." You're supposed to CARE about love and about a man you love - or even just like. The problem for all of us women happens when we don't know how to EXPRESS our sensitivity, and so we come off as either cold and uncaring or clingy and needy. It's so easy for us to pretend everything's all right and be a "doormat" - and it's just as easy to start blaming him and calling him a jerk and telling him everything he's doing is wrong. And then we feel even worse than before. I remember that feeling of being "off-balance" when a man I felt attracted to was around - but not acting the way I hoped he would act. Insecurities really have a way of showing up then the stakes seem the most high. And it doesn't have to be that way. Say Exactly What You Feel, Without Fear If you're struggling with your emotions around a man, and feel like you're bouncing between not "caring" what he does or thinks to practically obsessing over him and everything he says and does... I can help. There's a solution to this bouncing around to extremes and always feeling at a man's "mercy." And that solution is "Scripting." Knowing what to SAY to a man when you don't really BELIEVE you know what to say to him. I know you DO know what to say - you just need to find it and practice expressing it... and I'm here to help. You'll want to check out my Love Scripts online video program to help you with this - to help you KNOW what to say to a man in ANY situation, no matter how emotional or frustrating: Check Out Love Scripts Now I mean, wouldn't it be incredible if you could be as much "yourself" with any man as you are with your girlfriends? Or with a man you don't have feelings for? Making Him Fall For The Real You Here's what I want to give you to help you with this...it's a sort of a "view" of your life that can help you STAY "in-balance" no matter what's going on around you. It's SO easy to get extra sensitive when your picture of things gets "small." It can make you feel like you have to balance two extremes - either being "weak" or a "bitch." And we've seen out there in the world how easy it is to get "labeled" as a "doormat" or a "bitch" (ever happened to you?) - and we've been totally confused with the idea that men LIKE "bitches." Men don't really like "bitches," they like women who are REAL - so let's see how you can find a way to WEAVE these two extremes into your life so that you can embrace BOTH your "weakness" and your "bitchiness" and still find a sense of peace, calm, strength and emotional softness somewhere in the middle. What To Say When You Want More From Him Let's say you want something from your man - like more attention or affection or time, but he's being distant and preoccupied. Let's say you're feeling irritated and angry, and frightened that something's going wrong in the relationship. If you're in this situation now, or if you've ever been here, are you feeling that if you don't speak up and ask for what you want you're "weak," and if you DO speak up and ask for what you want you'll end up a "bitch"? So, first do this: Make quick, everlasting and final PEACE with yourself - that WHATEVER you do or say, you will be okay with yourself, forgive yourself, and learn from the experience. This sets you up to SUCCEED, and will help you with the fear. Now we're going to do a "Translation" kind of "scripting" that will help you feel stronger: Get a piece of paper and pencil ready - with a line drawn down the middle from top to bottom (the standard "Translations" page) Breathe into your belly - let go of all your muscles in your belly and pelvis, let it all hang out... On the paper, on the left side of the middle line, write down what you WANT to say to a man. Take as many pieces of paper as you need, but stick to the left side of the paper. Now, look for "judgment" Take a look at what you've written. CATCH yourself JUDGING yourself about every line, and CATCH whatever feeling each line brings up in you - anger, frustration, fear, a smile (some of it might be really funny and make you laugh!) Now Really Go For Broke Some of what you've written will seem weak and doormat-like to you, and some of it will seem dramatic and bitchy to you. That's great. Let it be "emotional." If you want to attack, attack. If you want to "whine," whine. Write down what you want to say about how you feel about each line you've already written! Notice if you've tried to be "reasonable." If what you've written seems very "business-like" or there's a lot of "explaining" or "convincing" or "telling" in there... really open up... Keep writing until you feel like you've said everything you really want to say Translate: You're going to take the judgment, the attack, the hurt, the complaint, the explanations, and you're going to translate them into Feeling Messages that will make up your "script" or "speech" you'll "deliver" to a man. You can learn exactly how to do this step by step and follow along with real-time demonstrations with real women onstage with me in my Love Scripts program - for now simply use the words "I feel," or "I'm feeling" in every single sentence and completely cross out and do not use the word YOU). Just doing this small writing exercise instead of trying to talk to your man from either of the doormat/bitch extremes will make a HUGE difference for you. 2 Steps To Speaking From Your Heart... And Connecting With His The act of writing this down will make it crystal clear to you how you think, and how you normally, instinctively express yourself - and you'll instantly SEE exactly why that isn't working for you! And then, as you actually SPEAK the words of the script you've created from the Feeling Messages you've written on the right side of your paper - you'll see INSTANTLY exactly why and HOW my method really does work! To get walked through the steps of how to do this with my help - for ANY situation you find yourself in - you'll want to check out my Love Scripts program here: Try Love Scripts And Learn The Right Words Love Scripts will become your go-to guide for any situation in which you're just not sure what to say to a man. Once you follow my program, you'll wish - like the women who participated in the program live - that you had learned how to do this ages ago. The truth is that what you may think of as your "weakness" is actually the most CHARMING parts of YOU! These are the parts that will be MOST appealing to a man, and will be the crucial link to your deep emotional bond with him. And the parts of you that are angry and "bitchy" can FUEL your courage to learn to speak to a man in a direct and very emotional way that he can actually HEAR! Let me know how Love Scripts works for you; I'm thrilled to be able to help you in this concrete, practical, and fast way... and look forward to hearing from you. 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