Get Him To Chase You Instead

Can't see the images? View online Unsubscribe Stop Feeling On Edge Guessing A Man's Every Move - I'll Teach You How To Make Him Start Pursuing You Tom, Do you ever feel like a man is so important to you that he's worth all the pain he causes you? To the point of where you're second-guessing yourself all the time, and working so hard to figure out how to behave and what to say to make the relationship happen? As if things would change if you could just get what to do and say right. I know I lived most of my life making men more important than myself. At least men I had "feelings" for. With a man I cared for, I'd think about him all the time. I'd strategize, talk about him with my friends, worry about what he was thinking, and what would happen next. With a man I didn't "feel anything for," and dated just because he was "nice" or "financially well-off," I could barely remember him after being with him. He Just Wasn't All That Important 7 Easy Steps To Trigger His Lifelong Commitment If you sometimes feel let down because he hasn't proposed or because he's just not moving the relationship to where you want it to be, I know I can help you feel better right now. You really can be in the committed relationship you want very soon, and with so much less work than we were all taught to believe love takes. In my Commitment Blueprint video program, I'll show you how to get the life-long commitment you want without game playing or manipulation. Start watching it right now 100% Risk-Free. Learn More It took me a long time, but when I finally got my love life working for the first time in my life, all of a sudden I realized it was working because I'd created it so that no men were all that important. Even if I'd slept with them. Even if I'd dated them for months. Even if I'd met their family and had incredible times. I'd somehow trained myself to think of myself as more important than any of these men, and I was able, in an amazing way, to let them just "run through my life." They ran through my life the way a river runs through river beds. They came in and went out. Some stayed a long time, some didn't. And somehow, I didn't care. I just kept believing one would stay, and that I wouldn't have to convince him to stay. And one did. He was great, and I married him. He stayed and turned my "river of men" into a beautiful lake. And you can do it, too. I Know You Can, Because If I Could Do It, Any Woman Can You may be wondering to yourself right now how in the world I did that. How did I make it so that I didn't become attached to any one man, and got a more relaxed, "what will be will be" attitude with dating? It happened because I decided I no longer could afford to make any man the center of my life unless he was 100%, totally, and completely devoted to me. And that meant, unless there was a ring on my finger, I was not giving away my heart and soul to a man. I wasn't exclusive with any man. What exclusivity had gotten me in the past is really a lot of heartbreak and disappointment. I realized at that time of my life that becoming a man's "girlfriend" without a commitment was actually UNattractive to a man. He doesn't have to pursue you anymore, and he doesn't have to work hard for your attention and affection. Men get lazy. They keep on doing what they want to do, especially if they know you're going to be there, waiting patiently. And often what they do is they decide to date someone else, or stall and stall and stall so that years go by without a commitment. Don't do this to yourself. There's A Way To Get The Kind Of Attention You Want From A Man There's a way to get the kind of attention from a man that happens when he genuinely, and without pressure, feels so intrigued and attracted to you that he can't help but chase you. It happens when you get a certain kind of "vibe" that tells a man that you have high enough regard for yourself that you won't tolerate bad behavior. And, you certainly don't "chase" after a man. In my Targeting Mr. Right video program, you'll learn the secret to curing just about any love problem: Men who withdraw Men who aren't ready to commit Men who aren't sure you're "the one" Men who don't call to ask you out Men who don't treat you as a priority "Targeting" will show you how to become the kind of "diva" in dating that men are irresistibly drawn toward. You'll learn how to date in a way that gives you the best options. You will land the man of your dreams, and Targeting Mr. Right will show you how, step-by-step. Watch Targeting Mr. Right Meanwhile, here's a letter from "Alice" (you'll see why I call her Alice instead of what she calls herself) who's struggling with making a man too important - right from the first meeting: Q."Dear Rori, I recently met a guy at my best friend's wedding. He was the photographer and I immediately noticed him. He approached me and we talked a little bit. At the reception later that night, in between taking pictures, he would come sit next to me at our table where we would continue to talk. Before I left he pulled out my phone and put his number in it. I insisted that he have mine in his phone also because I would rather he called me. Later that night I called to thank him for his company (stupid choice #1). The next night he called to ask how the second reception had gone that he couldn't attend and we talked a little bit. A few nights later I called to ask the name of a book that he recommended I read. I told him I had 'forgotten' the name....(stupid choice #2) how sly I thought I was. It's only been a few days, but I can't help thinking I've ruined it. He lives nearly three hours away, so I don't know when we will see each other next, if at all. I know I shouldn't have ever called. Have I ruined any chance I might have had to woo him? I promised myself I wouldn't call anymore, and I won't... so now where does that leave me? Is there anything I can do? Stupid" A.First - please, no more calling yourself or anything you do "stupid." We all make mistakes, and sometimes it's our mistakes, catching them and figuring out how to not make them again, that can HELP us more than anything else. It's the trial-and-error that got me where I am today, so a little trial-and-error will help you too, if you use my Tools to guide you. It's Not Just What She's Doing - Calling - It's Her Attitude Inside And that attitude is - "This guy talked to me at a party, he obviously liked me because he put his number in my phone, and now I'm all hung up on him." Men do all kinds of things. They act like they're in love with you, and then forget about you. They say things to you and then they change their minds. They're motivated to reach out to you for all kindas of reasons. It's easy to look at Alice's letter and say "I'll bet the moment he realized she lived 3 hours away, he lost interest." And yet, I have a client who just married a man who, when they met, lived 5 hours away. She had an engagement ring within 2 months, moved to his city in 6 months and was married in less than a year. So how do you know? Here's where not calling (at least not so fast) comes in handy. If you don't call, you get to find out how excited he is about you. You get to see if he's excited enough to at least... call. If he's not excited enough to call, the rest of the trip to the wedding is going to be much more torturous - even if you could manage to create it. If He Lost Your Number, He'll Track You Down If He's Excited Three hours would seem like nothing to him. In my experience, a man KNOWS when he's found his one. He may not know he knows, but he knows... and most often, he does know, and he even tells his friends "I met this woman..." If that's not happening for him, what usually goes on is he either stops it at the beginning and never follows up, or he dates you and dates you and tries to turn you into his one. In other words, he may like you so much, and like having sex with you so much, and admire you and like having you around so much that he tries to fall for you, and wants to fall for you, but just doesn't. It's as though we expect, if all the puzzle pieces are there, and we've spent enough time together, that a man will fall. As though it's a given that liking leads to love. And that's not how it works. If we're honest with ourselves, it doesn't work that way for us women, either. We Can't Talk Ourselves Into Being "In Love" Just Because We "Love" My Tools are all about helping him fall in love by opening up your heart to him while, at the same time, you stand by your own inner strength and boundaries. And no man can fall in love with a woman who's pushing herself on him "chasing him" trying to be clever and act like she doesn't care (when in fact she does - a lot!) So it wasn't even Alice's calling the photographer that destroyed any chance there was for a relationship to happen - it was her attitude that he was so important! He was so important that she couldn't wait to see what he would do. Instead, she should have continued flirting with every man everywhere, dating up a storm, and forgetting about him - or any man who doesn't call. So, if you - like Alice - are finding yourself thinking about a man (especially one you've just met or been out with only a few times), rethink this. Step Back. Ask Yourself: Why Am I Doing This - Making Him So Important? Why am I assuming he needs some help - that he needs me to call him, even though he has my number? If you can learn to let men run through your life - without landing on one or letting one get under your skin - everything will change for you. All of a sudden men won't be so important. And as great as that will be for your insides - you'll feel steadier and more confident - it will have an incredible affect on the men you meet or the man you already have. Instead of playing the "I'm hard to get" game, and bouncing back and forth in your mind trying to figure out what to do (call or don't call, do this, don't do that...), you'll be free to flirt with all men, spend your time and energy in a way that feels good to YOU, and you will actually, authentically BE hard to get. Every Man Who Gets Near You Will Be Able To Pick Up On It Your "vibe" will change dramatically, from the inside out. A man will sense that he has to work hard to be with you (and men love to work hard for a woman). In my Modern Siren program, I call this a woman with a "High Degree of Difficulty." A woman with a High Degree of Difficulty doesn't need a man. You like a man, but you don't need him. And you won't chase him, either. If he's interested, he's going to have to call you. Because you don't need to make him important. You'll be as far from "needy" as a woman can get, and confidence will just radiate out of you. So, Alice - for next time (yes, don't call, it will help you get so much better results) - don't worry so much about what you do and say. Instead... Vow To Make Sure He's Just Not That Important To You You'll see, it will go better next time. In Modern Siren, you'll learn to tap into your feminine power and your High Degree of Difficulty. It doesn't take much - because we're all born with this natural, magnetic power over men. Most of us just lost it somewhere along the way. We think it's a good idea to "chase" a man from the very moment he shows interest in us. We think it's a good idea to woo a man with our bodies, with our intelligence, or with our spirituality. The problem is, that no man will fall for a woman just because she's got a sharp mind and a beautiful body. A man will fall for you because of the emotions you stir up in him. Because of the way you capture his imagination with your mysterious, feminine allure. Watch Modern Siren Now What qualities do some "other" women have that make men go nutty chasing after them? Is it their looks? (Not always) Their personalities? (Not really) Everything they have going for them? (You and I both know that's not always the case!) What these other women have is a kind of special feminine allure and mystery that drives men nuts with desire and affection for them. In Modern Siren, you'll learn exactly what that allure is and how to bring it out in yourself instantly. It's easier than you think, and it's more powerful than you can imagine. You'll also learn: What he's thinking and feeling every step of the way (so you don't sabotage your relationship by guessing) How you've been suppressing your own feminine power because of your own life experiences How to interpret his behavior accurately without having to ask him (or your girlfriends) What to say and do when he acts flaky, stand-offish, or just plain rude in order to get his attention and stay grounded Watch Modern Siren Now I know my Modern Siren program will help you, and I look forward to hearing how you're doing with not making a man so important and using all my Tools to get what you want. Love, Rori P.S. If you feel compelled to call a man when he hasn't given you the time of day, stop. Re-read this email, take my advice to heart, and tell yourself that you will not chase after a man. It doesn't do you any good, and it doesn't "make" him come around to wanting to be in a relationship with you. Still need more help and support? Then here's what you should do: Watch my Modern Siren program every time you feel pulled to chase after, plead with, or convince a man that you'd make a great girlfriend. You'll get powerful Tools, amazing insights, lots of supportive advice, and you'll feel better and stronger, and you will know what to do to be irresistible to him, without compromising yourself: Watch Modern Siren Now Targeting Mr. Right A nuts-and-bolts approach that gets you your dream man - FAST: Find and keep Mr. Right Avoid heartbreak in dating Make a man chase YOU Learn More Now Commitment Blueprint Get the life-long devotion you want in 7 simple steps: Become his prize to pursue Make him work hard to keep you Trigger his life-long commitment Learn More Now Program Catalog | Frequently Asked Questions | Unsubscribe Copyright 2012, Have The Relationship You Want, LLC. All rights reserved. Rori Raye and Coach Rori are trademarks and/or service marks of Have The Relationship You Want, LLC. 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